多项心理学研究表明，在沟通与演讲中，我们说出口的文字只决定了大约 35% 的信息传递，而剩下的 65%，全靠我们的身体在“说话”！

今天，Miecke教练就来拆解这套被大多数人忽视的非语言表达（Nonverbal Communication），教你如何用身体语言传递情绪、感染观众！

Coach Miecke's Speaking Corner

Verbal communication is everything we convey with our voice—what we say and how we say it. Our nonverbal side, on the other hand, consists of everything we don't say, but show, that still communicates meaning. Here, we look at our body, hands, face, and even our eyes. Surprisingly, nonverbal communication carries the most meaning. While you might think—especially in public speaking—that words are the most important part, listeners pick up far more from what you show. Psychological studies have proven that spoken words account for only about 35% of the meaning received, while nonverbal cues make up the remaining 65%. It is a crucial aspect of communication that many people overlook, yet it has a massive impact on how we speak.

Body

The way you stand during a speech matters. Many speakers tend to lean to one side, placing weight on a single leg, while others keep their legs glued together, leaving no space to move. To project confidence, stand with your feet hip-width apart and planted firmly on the floor. This provides a strong, balanced, and grounded base while making it easy to step or move around. Posture is equally critical; slouching diminishes your credibility and makes you look unprepared. Keep your shoulders back and imagine balancing a book on your head. While purposeful movement is allowed and can keep a speech engaging, avoid continuous, distracting pacing that detracts from your message.

Face

Facial expressions communicate volumes without a single word. Your face reveals whether you like something, feel upset, or are excited about your topic. To help the audience relate to you and understand your emotions, use your facial expressions intentionally. Showing your enthusiasm or concern builds a stronger connection, whereas a rigid, expressionless delivery detached from emotion distances you from the audience.

Hands

Hand gestures are a public speaking superpower, yet many misuse or hide them. Placing your hands behind your back can make you appear untrustworthy, nervous, or secretive. Avoid nervous habits like fidgeting with clothes or wringing your hands. Instead, keep your arms relaxed at your sides and use open gestures to emphasize points—such as counting on your fingers or illustrating size. Use pointing with caution, as it can feel aggressive if done incorrectly. Natural, light, and open hand movements enrich your delivery.

Eyes

Eye contact signals confidence and a desire to connect. Staring at your feet, ceiling, or off to the sides makes you look anxious or disengaged. Looking up when forgetting words is a clear tell to the audience that you lost your train of thought. If looking directly at people feels intimidating, look just above the audience's heads; from their perspective, it appears as though you are looking at them, while reducing your stress. Over time, aim to look directly into their eyes to harness the true power of stage presence.

Miecke教练的演讲小技巧

言语沟通包含了我们通过声音所表达的一切——即我们说话的内容和方式。而非言语沟通则是指我们虽未说出口、但通过展现出来的动作所传递的涵义。这涉及到我们的身体、双臂、面部乃至眼神。令人惊讶的是，非言语沟通往往承载了最核心的信息。在公众演讲中，你或许认为语言是最关键的部分，但对听众而言，他们接收到的信息更多来自你的非言语表现。多项心理学研究表明，我们所说的话仅占听众接收到的含义的35%左右，而剩下的65%则由非言语的表达方式决定。这是许多人容易忽略、却对演讲效果有着巨大影响的关键环节。

1. 身体姿态

演讲时的站姿至关重要。许多演讲者习惯将重心偏向一侧单腿站立，或者双腿紧贴无法自如移动。传达自信的最佳站姿是双脚开立与髋同宽，平稳踩地。这种站姿不仅稳固、平衡，还能让你在需要移动时保持灵活。此外，站姿和体态同样重要；弯腰驼背会降低你的说服力，让你显得不够专业。保持肩部打开，想象头顶悬着一本书。演讲时可以进行适度的走动，但要避免无休止的频繁晃动，以免分散听众的注意力。

2. 面部表情

即便不开口，面部表情也能传递出丰富的信息。听众能从你的脸上看出你的喜怒哀乐以及对主题的态度。想要与听众产生共鸣，就必须善用面部表情来展现情绪。充满生气的表情能拉近与听众的距离，而僵硬、毫无表情的“僵尸式”演讲则会让人产生疏离感。

3. 手势运用

手势是演讲者的“超级武器”，但许多人要么不敢用，要么用错。将双手藏在背后会让听众产生不信任感，显得紧张或有所隐瞒。避免搓捏衣角或双手频繁缠绕等紧张小动作。平时将双臂自然垂于身体两侧，需要强调重点时再配合手势——例如用手指计数、用手势比划体积大小等。注意慎用指向性动作（如用手指人），以免让听众感到被冒犯。自然、开放的手势能极大丰富你的表达。

4. 眼神交流

眼神交流能够展现自信并建立连接。看脚尖、看天花板或环顾四周都会显得不够从容。忘记台词时习惯性地抬头看，也是向听众暴露你“卡壳”的明显信号。如果直接注视听众的眼睛让你感到紧张，可以尝试看向听众头顶上方区域；在听众看来你依然在注视他们，而你自己承受的心理压力会小很多。随着练习的深入，逐渐过渡到直接与听众进行眼神交汇，从而真正掌控舞台的感染力。

别再死磕字斟句酌的逐字稿了。

下一次开口前，试着先放松双肩、站稳双脚、露出微笑——用这 65% 的隐藏语言，去真正打动你的听众吧。

成长从来不是一蹴而就的，每一个在台上面不改色、光芒四射的人，背后都曾踩过不少紧张的“小坑”。